Hospitality

“Hospitality means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen, Reaching Out: The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life

In a world where we meet many differing opinions on a daily basis coming into a hospitable environment where there is space to come to understanding is wonderful.

Recently at a family reunion I watched as my brother gently and carefully opened up his home to 60+ family members with so many differing opinions, religious views, and political leanings.

He captured us by telling stories of our ancestors. The stories were bittersweet, with strong emotion. When he had to wait for his own emotion to pass and then keep going, I looked around the large room. Teenagers were enthralled. Adults were wiping away tears, and little children cuddled up extra close to their parents. By inviting us into his home, feeding us with countless dishes, and by showing us his vulnerability, he exhibited the hospitality I yearn to emulate. Everyone left their dividing opinions at the door.