"Disappointment is unmet expectations, and the more significant the expectations, the more significant the disappointment."
That fit my past and even my present stories. Somehow I started my life away from my parents thinking that certain situations were basic human rights. Yes, I had entitlement issues. Perhaps some of these will sound familiar.
If you get an education you are entitled to have a really good job.
If you are obedient to the Lord you will get ahead financially.
If you have a job you will get to own a house.
If your husband works hard you won't have to go to work.
If you teach your children properly they will be obedient.
In the second decade of raising my five children I adopted the motto, LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS. I quoted this often and found my friends resenting that statement as if I was willing to sell out to some lower laws.
Guess what? Here are some things that transpired in my life that I never in a million years expected.
I have had, and still have, a business teaching piano to 35 students a week for 27 years. I never planned that.
I home schooled most of my children for a decade. I didn't see that coming.
I am an artist and art is a major focus in my life. Totally unexpected.
Even as I write this I feel the spirit whisper, "My plans for you are so much more than what you expected and thought you deserved."
"Wholeheartedness requires being conscious of the litany of expectations that hum along below the surface so we can reality-check our thinking"