I am joining Kate Motaung and others who are writing every day in October. My intention is to record my reactions and feelings about Brené Brown's newest book, "Rising Strong". You can find the other posts I have written here.
Today I realized that my aversion to accountability has to do with feeling that unless my accounting is perfect, it is not worth recording. So here I am dealing with perfectionism. Making an accounting is really just marking where we are in our journey. It is helpful if we are honest. Rather than numbing my feeling of inadequacy with food maybe I should sit with the feeling and look at what I am trying to do. Perhaps I could feel grateful that my body can respond to good self-care.
"Lord, help me do better everyday and always show thee my gratitude for having a body and spirit to integrate with thy will. Help me on my wholehearted journey"
I like your comment that "Making an accounting is really just marking where we are in our journey." It's not always easy to be honest even with ourselves (I can struggle with perfectionism too) but it does help to be honest. Once we see clearly where we are it's easier to see how to move forward.
ReplyDeleteI have a whole, new idea about accounting now.
DeleteFor years I was all or nothing when it came to eating. If I slipped along the way I just gave up. Why bother would be my thinking. I've worked hard over the last few years to be kinder to myself. It has allowed me to be more successful in the challenge of maintaining my weight.
ReplyDeleteI hear you Shari.
DeleteSitting in the discomfort and vulnerability. So hard. Yet so beautiful.
ReplyDeleteChristina, I see it as hard but I have not found the beauty, yet.
DeleteI'm funny (funny weird not funny funny, although I do have my moments!)....I run almost every day and love the feeling of being fit but I do, when I'm stressed, immediately turn to certain foods (chocolate, bread, cakes). They don't help (I always feel worse after), making the stress worse. I've been making a conscious effort to avoid this pattern recently, with the thought that I should take care of myself and that my body is sacred (I'm living with a strange mind-body disjunct as a result of the trauma). Since I've consciously been doing this, honoring myself through the good food choices I make, I've been a) less stressed and b) happier and c) with a lot more energy. I can't do accountability through spreadsheets (I'm just not wired that way) but I do need accountability: the simple rule of honoring my body by only letting healthy food in to it has led me to a much better place. Every time I decide what to eat, I ask myself whether it's s good choice....if the answer is no, I don't eat it. That simple question keeps me accountable.
ReplyDeleteIt's a daily struggle for sure and harder on some days than others. This time of year when the weather turns cold and there are more rainy dreary days, my brain seems to think there is sunshine in the pantry. :) I have never done well with measuring to manage since it brushes up against math, something I'm trying to avoid on a daily basis. One thing I realized recently is that when I'm stressing myself out about food and what I can/should have or not, my body is releasing cortisol which then makes the entire situation worse. Now I'm working on having a more relaxed relationship with my food. Also, I'm pretty lazy and am not going to Sonic at 10:30 for a hot fudge sundae so if I can make good choices when I'm at the grocery, I'm golden once I get home.
ReplyDeleteEating out is a whole different story.
Love your willingness to be vulnerable about something we can all relate to!