" Offering help is courageous and compassionate, but so is asking for help"
Amidst the rumble of what is confabulation (A gap in memory replaced by a untruth) and what is truth I have a few new thoughts about my own relationship to being a helper and receiving help. I certainly am uncomfortable with being perceived as a person in need. I would rather be independent of needing help but, I also don't see myself as an adequate helper. Rising up on the delta are some truths.
- Being helped is vulnerable
- I wish I could fix everything like Mary Poppins but, I can't, so I must be grateful to do what I can
- In truth I do help often and being a helper is not a competition. There will always be people who have the gift of charity in more abundance.
" It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving."Mother Theresa
Speaking of Mother Theresa, many were shocked when her writings were disclosed. There was great spiritual need within her. She sought prayers and support often. And what of Paul and the thorn in his flesh. How fervently he sought for relief. I think Brené is correct. If we look away in the face of great need perhaps we actually judge the deep need within ourselves.
"Please pray specially for me that I may not spoil His work and that Our Lord may show Himself -- for there is such terrible darkness within me, as if everything was dead," she wrote in 1953. "It has been like this more or less from the time I started 'the work."